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In a discussion posted on Reddit, a 25-year-old woman shared her perspective regarding a valuable necklace gifted by her former partner. Her relationship with the 28-year-old was characterized by a tumultuous cycle of frequent breakups and reconciliations over the course of two years. Throughout their time together, he often showered her with gifts in attempts to mend their issues.
After their latest split, which led her to block his phone number, he has sought various methods to contact her, specifically asking for the return of the expensive necklace.
“The thing is, the whole relationship was just disappointment and financial drain for me,” the woman explained. “I feel like I deserve to keep it because he gave it to me to try to make up for everything.”
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Although she did not disclose explicit reasons for her waning feelings toward her ex-boyfriend, she highlighted the emotional toll he had on her.
“He can never make up for all the pain he caused me, but at least this is something good for me to get out of this,” the woman stated. “I think I deserve to keep the necklace.”
Keen to gather opinions on her situation, she posed the question: “What do you think?”
Responses to her post predominantly supported her stance that returned gifts are uncommon, even if requested by the giver. One commenter affirmed, “NTA [not the a——], it was a gift, so obviously it’s yours.” They further suggested considering whether keeping the necklace was worth the ongoing disturbances from her ex-boyfriend.
Another observer encouraged her to remember that a gift is inherently a gift, stating, “Keep it! No other justification required.”
One suggestion humorously recommended listing the necklace on Facebook Marketplace, indicating that her ex could repurchase it if he truly wanted it back—an expression of their sentiments toward his entitlement.
A differing perspective urged her to document her ex’s attempts to reconnect, labeling his actions as harassment and advising her to keep evidence for potential legal action.
“NTA. That necklace is yours! It was a gift, not a bribe,” they emphasized. The advice provided insight into how unwanted contact may escalate, reinforcing the need for validation and protection regarding her decision to keep the necklace.
