Make This Holiday Season Sexy

Common Holiday Stressors

• Family Dynamics Holiday commercials often portray picture-perfect families enjoying harmonious gatherings. However, family relationships can be complex, laden with histories that may resurface. This tension can affect not only personal interactions but also relationships with partners, particularly when navigating the in-laws.

• Financial Strains Many couples experience financial disagreements during the holiday season. For example, Genoa expresses her desire to create memorable moments for family and friends, such as hosting gatherings and finding special gifts. However, her husband Pierre feels overwhelmed by the spending, which often exceeds their agreed-upon budget, leading to conflict.

• Overcommitment and Unrealistic Expectations A common theme among couples is the exhaustion that comes from trying to please everyone. Terry shares that his wife often ends up drained, leaving him with a frustrated version of the woman he loves. Despite their efforts to create joyful memories, they frequently find themselves disappointed when reality doesn’t meet their lofty expectations.

During the holidays, it’s easy to overlook the romantic aspect of a relationship. I encourage couples to flip this pattern on its head, reminding them to embrace the holiday spirit by nurturing their connection with love and affection. To avoid becoming a holiday Grinch, here are some creative ways to inject romance and excitement into your celebrations this year.

Establish New Connection Rituals to Create a Joyful Holiday Season

Reflect on Our Journey Together

Take a stroll down memory lane by reminiscing about your first holiday together. Did you meet their family for the first time? Share stories of your most memorable holiday experiences, whether they were filled with joy or challenges. Use your smartphone or photo albums to help jog your memory and connect through shared experiences.

Cozy Holiday Movie Marathon

Select a couple of holiday films that you both enjoy, whether it’s the whimsical Grinch or the action-packed Die Hard. Prepare some festive snacks, eliminate distractions, and cuddle up on the sofa. To add a playful touch, consider offering each other foot massages during the screening.

Experience a Live Holiday Show

Look for a live performance that suits your tastes, be it a local choir, a festive play, or a holiday concert. This year, my partner and I are excited to attend a performance by the Vancouver Gay Men’s Chorus. During intermission, hold hands, share a kiss, and indulge in dessert as you reflect on the highlights of your year together.

The Romantic Stocking Surprise

Design a romantic stocking or gift bag filled with thoughtful surprises. Over the upcoming weeks, each partner can secretly add notes, small gifts, cherished memories, or anything else that symbolizes their love. Include a playful element, like a spicy game or a novelty item, and share these treasures on a meaningful holiday morning.

Express Your Feelings Honestly

Write a heartfelt love letter to your partner. It doesn’t need to be lengthy or poetic; what matters is the emotion behind your words. Share your appreciation and recount why you choose this special person in your life. Consider exchanging letters over a romantic dinner or in a cozy moment at home.

The Gift of Generosity

One of the most beautiful aspects of the holiday season is the opportunity to give back. Volunteer together at a local charity or create a care package for those in need. Consider supporting a cause that’s meaningful to you as a couple, ensuring that your holiday spirit extends beyond your immediate circle.

Make Your Relationship a Priority

Ultimately, the emotional experience of the holidays is what you make of it. Take some time to reflect on what’s beneficial for you and what needs adjustment. Your romantic relationship should certainly be at the top of that list. Don’t forget the effort you put into making your first holiday together special—commit to doing that again this year. Like the Grinch discovering the true meaning of the season, you’ll find that joy often lies in the simple act of holding hands and cherishing each other. When we focus on what truly matters, our hearts—and our love—have the potential to grow immensely.