Empowering Women: Beyond Objectification

Rising Alarm Over Gender-Based Violence Cases

Recent incidents of gender-based violence (GBV), particularly where women have been tragically killed by their partners amidst allegations of infidelity, have raised serious concerns among anti-GBV advocates.

A disturbing trend has emerged on social media, with some men attempting to justify these violent acts by stating comments like “a woman who cheats deserves to be killed.” This emphasis on harmful beliefs has intensified calls for education aimed at teaching men that women are not possessions.

In a chilling incident last Friday in uMgababa, 24-year-old Mlondi Cele is reported to have stabbed his 22-year-old girlfriend, Bongeka Makhathini, and their three-year-old son before taking his own life. Sources suggest that Cele believed their son was not his and accused Makhathini of cheating on him multiple times.

Additionally, a viral video featuring Sibusiso Lawrence, who justified the murder of his girlfriend Nontobeko Cele by claiming he had invested heavily in their relationship, has drawn further scrutiny. He accused her of infidelity and questioned the paternity of their child, sparking outrage and concern.

Social Media Responses and the Justification of Violence

The Weekend Witness highlighted a worrying trend of social media users defending Lawrence’s actions, with some blaming Cele for “provoking him.” This troubling dynamic emphasizes the necessity for a broader conversation around GBV and its acceptance in society.

Elton Adkins, an activist with Men Fighting Against Gender-Based Violence, stressed the urgency of reinforcing the message that men do not possess women. He reflected on the pattern of violence, noting, “A few days after Cele’s murder, another incident occurred where a man killed his girlfriend and their son before taking his own life. Instead of condemning these acts, some men are encouraging one another. It’s crucial for men to understand that women choose to be with them; they can leave without causing harm.”

Year-Round Activism Needed

Adkins expressed disappointment in the efficacy of annual campaigns like the 16 Days of Activism and Women’s Month, arguing that efforts must continue throughout the entire year. “We need 365 days of mobilization against GBV. Current initiatives and support services for men struggling with aggression do not appear to be working effectively,” he added.

Leadership Calls for Change

Echoing these sentiments, ANC secretary-general Fikile Mbalula criticized the commodification of women. During a media briefing in Johannesburg, he stated, “Men should have no expectations in relationships. Just because you gift a woman a car or expensive items does not mean she is yours. Women are individuals, not possessions.”

The Path Forward

The serious nature of the GBV crisis calls for collective accountability and a dedicated movement towards change. As communities learn from these devastating incidents, the fight against GBV must remain at the forefront of societal discussions to protect the rights and lives of women.